Friendships

A friendship quiz can give any computer user an idea of what type of friend to make or what type of friends to attract. A test can aid in this process by giving the user a better idea of how to make relationships that last for years to come. In today's world people find it difficult to form deep, lasting friendships; our lives have become so busy. But in today's world of hustle and bustle and productivity, true connections are needed more than ever. Perhaps a Biblical perspective of fellowship can give us a direction in finding true friends that bring joy and support into our lives.

When taking a friendship quiz or personality test, the person will want to keep in mind what the Bible teaches us about the need for fellowship with like-minded people, or other believers. The Bible, time and again, is the source that provides examples and guidance to every situation in life. God's Word contains answers to questions that deal with life and purpose and relationships. In the Bible, God refers to close Christian connections as family, demonstrating that as believers in Christ, we are to unite and care for one another. From the Biblical perspective, friends are every bit as important as blood relations or family. It is like we are blood relations to other believers in Jesus Christ! His blood was shed for us, and this we have in common.

There is a wonderful example of Christ's teaching on friendships and family in the book of Matthew. In Matthew, chapter twelve, Jesus' mother and brothers come to inquire of him. Christ's disciples interrupt him to let him know that his family is there and want to speak with him. What Christ does next reveals a godly perspective of family and a righteous perspective of relationships. "But he answered and said unto him that told him, who is my mother? And who are my brethren? And he stretched forth his hand toward his disciples, and said, behold my mother and my brethren! For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother" (Matthew 12:48-50). Christ used this opportunity to teach us something important about God's kingdom. When we are bonded by the shared belief of God and in the desire to serve him, we are as family. Christ clearly states that those who are in the will of God are just like his own mother, brothers, and sisters. When Christ gestured to the crowd listening to the teaching, he proclaimed that those people were his family. For more information on other Bible topics, visit these Bible resources.

Whenever a person attends church and sits beside others who are eager to learn and eager to serve, then he is not only sitting among friends, but he is sitting among family. Paul, the apostle, continues this teaching in several of the letters he wrote to the young churches that were just beginning to set the standards that we follow today. In Philippians, Paul wrote, "Fulfil ye my joy, that ye be like-minded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind" (Philippians 2:2). In a letter to the Colossians, Paul wrote, "That their hearts might be comforted, being knit together in love, and unto all riches of the full assurance of understanding, to the acknowledgement of the mystery of God, and of the Father, and of Christ; in whom are hid the treasures of wisdom and knowledge." (Colossians 2:2-3) The family of Christ is to be knit together, bonded, having one common direction and heart. Now this is what family and friendships are truly about--and what a person can begin to accomplish online!

Take a friendship quiz! Take a personality test! And then plug into a church family. There are many occasions to serve within a church body and taking the initiative to get involved will reveal like-minded friends who long to serve their Lord in the fellowship of others who believe the same. The spirit of Christ lives within each believer, and the spirit of Christ will recognize us when we come together as Christian family. Even through an e-mail acquaintance with another believer, we can expand our horizons and build our fellowship.

The world is moving so fast, and we've created a fast-paced lifestyle that leaves little time for investing in long lasting friendships. We feel as if we are strangers in our neighborhood and in our workplace. Our hearts yearn for deeper connections with our neighbors, our relations, our immediate family. But where can we find the time to establish new relationships? However, the very things that have contributed to our over-productivity can also be used as tools for finding friends and like-minded Christians. The Internet and a friendship quiz can be a valuable source of connecting and fellowship with people who, in Christ, are truly family!

Servant Leadership

Servant leadership is modeled after the attributes of Jesus Christ and energized to action by the Holy Spirit. Jesus Christ, God's Son, was the ultimate example of a leader who took on the form of a servant and humbled himself even to death on the cross in order to fulfill His Father's redemptive plan for humanity. His example far surpasses the attempts Christian leaders make today unless they apply Philippians 2:5 to their lives: "Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus."

There are many seminars and conferences offered consistently throughout the country that address the qualities leaders need to be successful in business or in life in general. Leadership skills such as organization, planning, visionary techniques, relationship management strategies and assertiveness training are all emphasized as being crucial. Even though there are important skills to be learned in order to succeed in life, an interesting paradox is drawn between the qualities of a Christian leader and the worldly leader.

Leaders often get a bad reputation for their means of achieving success. For example, many times skills such as focusing on goals no matter the circumstances, doing whatever it takes to get the job done and stepping on others to reach the top have become the norm within the cooperate or secular workplace. Unfortunately, this mindset is also reflected in the lives of many Christians. That is not to say that leaders' qualities such as a good work ethic, personal determination and undaunted focus on the right goals are not found within many secular and Christian models. However, the servant leadership example of Jesus sets a new tone for anyone who wants to lead in a godly way within their home, workplace, church or community.

Qualities such as kindness, forgiveness, patience, love and self control should be evident through any Christian's life and especially in those that aspire to lead. Although there are many Christian qualities that should set apart any Christian from his or her secular counterpart, there is one particular quality that Jesus manifested with grace and dignity. Ironically, the most powerful man who ever lived became the most humble, servant leader of all. Reminding us of this uncommon leadership quality of Jesus, Philippians 2 encompasses what it really means to exhibit true servant leadership. Would you like to start a Bible study?

Humility was the particular quality that set Jesus apart as He took on the sins of all mankind and humbled himself to death on a Roman cross. Philippians reminds us that He was God, yet He took on the form of a human in order to become the sacrifice for our sins. The great humility that He displayed throughout out His earthly life and particularly His death is unparalleled in history. Yet, it continues to provide us with the supreme example of a servant leading for any who aspire to be like Him! In fact, Philippians does encourage us to have the same attitude and aspiration as Jesus Christ in relation to the world.

If humility is the major earmark of servant leadership, what does it entail? The Book of Philippians describes several ways in which humility is to be displayed. We are exhorted to deny prideful motives as we interact with others as well as esteem others more important than ourselves. We are further encouraged to deny ourselves as Christ denied Himself by making himself of no reputation. This kind of humility enabled Christ to stoop lower than His heavenly kingdom in order to relate to sinful mankind in human form. There are other attributes of leadership through humility mentioned in this text as well such as cultivating a good attitude rather than mumbling and being careful to maintain a clean, Christian testimony.

A servant leader is born out of authentic, Christian humility and is empowered by the Holy Spirit. Philippians 2:13 states, "...it is God which worketh in you both to will and do of His good pleasure." God is the only One who can enable truly successful Christian leadership and He is the only One Who can make it possible for us to deny ourselves in order to appropriate the leader's quality of humility. Unfortunately, today's fast-paced, self-oriented world does not value the timeless quality of humility and can misinterpret it for weakness.

The Scriptural word for meekness, which is a counterpart to humility, is translated to mean "power under control." The strongest Person Who ever lived manifested the most powerful leadership skills through the quality of humility. May all those who aspire to true servant leadership look to the One Who is the true model for all leaders! "And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross." "Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus." (Philippians 2:8,5)





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