Motherhood

Mothers are the subject of both praise and criticism, and sometimes the messages sent by society makes it difficult to determine the importance of motherhood. Mothering has never lost its importance in Christian society. Biblical principles that guide Christians through life and keep them focused upon acceptable behavior, help the Christian mom in guiding her children to adulthood with the knowledge that life is a gift from God, and these lives deserve respect. A Christian mother provides firm guidelines for living a life full of purpose, honesty, and integrity. She does not raise the little ones alone, of course. If she has chosen a Godly man to be the father of her children, he stands beside her in the raising of the family. And if Mom is unfortunate enough to lose him through divorce or death, God and the church are still there for support.

Too many women in today's society have decided not to be moms by killing their children in the womb. Abortion as an acceptable alternative to motherhood has allowed evil to permeate our society. Christian mothers have to stand strongly in defense of morality and its importance in improving the way we live. The future of our society depends upon strong, God-fearing parents who go against the tide of current trends.

Looking at motherhood from a different direction, young moms are often away from their best source of information when they have their first baby--their mothers. When that happens, her doctor will probably be her main source of information as far as the pregnancy and birth experience are concerned. There may even be a friend available who is expecting at the same time, or has recently had a child. In today's world, no matter how far from Mom the young mother-to-be is, if she has a computer, most questions will be answered. If the new mom enrolls in a pre-birth class, she will learn as much as possible about the process. For more information about God's truth for moms, click here.

After having a baby, mothers find out how little sleep they can survive on, and just how erratic the appetite of a newborn can be. While she delights in the new life, this new lifestyle takes time to get used to. Motherhood is sometimes like entering a maze, and it's hard to find one's way through. The wonderful thing is, the woman usually figures it out, and both she and the child survive without permanent scars. It helps to maintain a sense of humor, just as with the rest of life. Children can be both frustrating and delightful, and sharing the life of a child is like no other experience in the world. The single most important thing moms can do for their children is to love them unconditionally. Kids will do things moms don't like and will have to be punished for bad behavior, but love should never be withdrawn because of wrong actions. Children will learn from mistakes as long as they can count on the "rock" of being loved.

Christian mothers can find helpful information for every stage of a child's development from books or magazines that are available in the library or bookstores that have been written from a Christian slant. Since we can't remember how we were thinking at a very young age, and thus relate to the child, having someone who is an expert explain why they are doing certain things helps a lot. Scripture promises us "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." (Proverbs 22:6)

Fathers have been given an extraordinary responsibility from God, not only to be the leader, but to love, guide, provide, protect, encourage and support his family. Deuteronomy 6:6-9 says fatherhood demands men to diligently encourage their children to learn the Lords commandments; "And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes. And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates." The bible instructs parents to teach children the ways of the Lord, discipline against sinful behaviors and provide a strong foundation for the future.

A child's first exposure to spirituality is usually at home, through the teaching of parents. Fathers are to bring children up "...in the nurture and admonition of the Lord", (Ephesians 6:4), by first setting the example. It has been suggested that a child's most powerful influence is their same-sex parent, so Godly men raise Godly men, who then raise Godly men. Parents should be cautious as to whom they let influence their family through personal or business relationships. Fatherhood includes keeping holy relationships so that children will also keep friends who share a passion for Christ; "Whoso keepeth the law is a wise sone: but he that is a companion of riotous men shameth his father" (Proverbs 28:7). For more information on topics such as motherhood, parenting and obedience, visit our Bible resources.

Discipline is often a touchy subject for parents who do not know when, where and how to correct the sinful, disobedient behaviors of their children. From spanking to time-outs, God tells fathers that discipline is love and to always discipline in love; "My son despise not the chastening of the Lord; neither be weary of his correction; for whom the Lord loveth he correcteth; even as a father the son in whom he delighteth" (Proverbs 3:11-12). Teaching the scripture to a child will help them understand how their punishments for sins are acts of love against Satan. Correcting your children, throughout your fatherhood, will bring delight into your soul and peace that only Godly discipline can provide.

Fatherhood must include thoughtful consideration for the futures of children and how to provide a strong foundation for a child's spiritual growth. This includes leadership of the household, emotional support, and financial stability; "A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children's children: and the wealth of the sinner is laid up for the just" (Proverbs 13:22). Scripture tells us that fathers who do not provide for their house are worse than heathens and a man who is greedy brings trouble to his own house. It is a huge responsibility for a man to be solely responsible for the building up of a home and can not be done with out the guidance and wisdom of our Heavenly Father God. Above all, God wants all parents to know He is with them and will help them raise wonderful, spiritual children for his purposes.

Parenting

Parents may seem to have the hardest times in today's society. Parenting has been made more complicated in the last few decades with all the looseness of sex and the availability of drugs. The Christian has one of the hardest times with raising a child in the awareness of the Lord. When attempting to parent a child to know the difference between right and wrong based on the Bible, society with all it's liberalness becomes the enemy. If teaching a child that something is wrong that the world doesn't agree with, the problems begin. The question is how the Christian parent is supposed to raise a child in a highly secularized society that looks to culture for all of the answers rather than living morally as the Bible teaches. Many wrestle with where to send children to school as the public institutions support the general views of society. For more information, take our Parenting Quiz.

When trying to choose schools that will educate a child without filling the little minds with garbage, a Christian parent have many problems finding one that is appropriate. The job becomes harder when being fought by a school system. Many will opt for home schooling, but there are some drawbacks in this too. Many children who are home schooled will be smarter than the average student because of being able to work at an individual pace, but this may also isolate children from the needed socialization. The question becomes how to give the students everything needed educationally without denying them friendships and the ability to work as a team.

In bigger cities, home schooling programs are established without much of a problem. There they are not alone in their quest to educate their child. Beliefs in parenting are able to be put onto action without denying the child the much needed social setting. This is because in bigger cities, there are home schooling groups. These groups will have everything that a child needs from playing sports to debate clubs. Many groups will play against each other and be put into a league. As long as a child is involved in activities through home school groups, you need not worry as much about the problem with socializing the child who is in a home school setting. The best of both worlds can be gotten here. The education can be obtained without losing the friends.

If home schooling is not the ideal for the child, then look into charter or Christian schools. The Christian parents must look into finding what is best for a child intellectually as well as socially if choosing to take this route. The entire job is made easier in these schools because there are good teachers helping to teach morality. The only thing that is most important in these schools is making sure that the child is involved in a good crowd of friends. Many children are sent to Christian schools in the hope of reform and/or exposing children to a group of friends that may have the same values and beliefs. Discover God's Word through these Bible resources.

Being a Christian parent is difficult in today's society. The importance today is never letting go of the truth. No matter how hard parents have it, as long as the Bible is being taught to their children, they cant go wrong. Never settle for less than what the Lord has for a child. Also, never force a child to be someone that they aren't. Many times children of the Christian parent will go crazy once they get to college. This is because they had parents that did not teach them to think on their own. It is so important to teach children to have their own minds and to think.

Even if a child turns away from the earlier teachings, realize that if, a child has been raised in the faith, they will return to it eventually. Parenting has never been considered an easy task, but it is not the worst thing out there. Make sure that you are honoring the Lord by teaching children about him. But the most important thing is to show them they are loved. Let them know the Lord because He loves them. Love as the Lord has shown how to love and children will see Christ in you. "Consider how I love thy precepts: quicken me, O LORD, according to thy loving kindness" (Psalm 119:159)

Financial advice is necessary when one wants to get out of debt. Today, many Americans are overwhelmed by debt due to overspending and lack of a budget. Fortunately, there are numerous ways to get back on track. There are businesses and organizations established for just the purpose of helping people find ways to get out of debt and achieve freedom financially. These companies use tools like budget training, consolidation loans, counseling and accountability to help people get control of their finances at little or no cost. Although these can be great and helpful companies, advisors and counselors are often just looking for money. Debtors have to know how to identify the companies and tools that will help most in order to truly get the financial help needed to find financial freedom. "Restore unto me the joy of thy salvation; and uphold me with thy free spirit" (Psalm 51:12).

There are many types of companies that claim to help people get out of debt. They often call themselves by many different names such as debt managers, debt consultants, assistants, advisors, and counselors. However, not all are created equal. Some of these companies charge ridiculous fees, promising to solve all debt problems quickly and easily. Consumers may see their ads on television, hear commercials on the radio or receive advertisements by email. The key is to find out what the company really offers as far as budget planning and counseling. There is no quick solution to getting out of debt and gaining control of one's finances. It often takes months, even years, of commitment to a budget and consistent payments on debts to really achieve financial freedom.

When selecting the right company, look both in the local phone book and online. The Internet is probably the best source for financial advice. To start a search, ask people around about recommendations. They may recommend a company that they are familiar with. The best companies are the ones that are known and reputable. Check with the Better Business Bureau and the Federal Trade Commission for complaints against any company before you sign anything or become an official client or customer. Online, debtors can find both for-profit and non-profit financial planning companies. Inspect for-profit companies to see what exactly they charge as well as what services are charged for. See what solutions are offered no matter what their status. Some consumers may be interested in working with a debt management company that is non-profit and Christian. This is good because they will charge little or no fees and teach how to stay on track financially with Biblical strategies. People may wonder what the Bible has to do with money, but well over two hundred Bible verses actually reference money. It is a major part of what we do on Earth, and therefore, a major part of our walk with God. Biblical strategies allow us to get financial help according to God's will and purpose. For information about God's truths, click here.

When actually accepting assistance, consumers will have to share the majority of their debt and budget information with the company. The advisor may even want to look over the debtor's credit report. This is necessary to breaking down one's situation and understanding what the source of debt is. The best counseling involves determining whether the debtor overspends or not and how to stop the overspending. A good advisor will help their client learn how to stretch each dollar and stay on a solid budget. The advisor will look over all of the client's bills and debts and help them figure out a repayment plan that works with a monthly budget. He or she may even contact creditors on behalf of the client to try and get late fees and other charges erased.

Guidance financially can be great if debtors work with a company that is reliable and known for great service. Consumers should be comfortable with their advisor and the tools offered to master financial planning. Remember, training is key. There is no point in getting financial help if the debtor will only end up back in old spending habits. Each consumer need to commit to a budget and let others hold them accountable. Pray for God's guidance and look to Biblical strategies and financial advice. Soon debt will slowly disappear.





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