Dating older men or women is an opportunity for single people to experience romance regardless of their age. Dating older women or men can boost a senior's self-confidence and offer the potential for happiness and companionship at a stage when, for many, the prospects for either are uncertain. Seeking new love can be just as thrilling, un-nerving, and complicated after age 65 as it was at age 25. Many senior daters are just as interesting, smart, attractive, and complex as younger people.
The importance of love and romance changes as people age. The playing field for dating older women or men is more uncertain than for younger people. As men tend to die younger, women greatly outnumber men. It appears that senior women, therefore, have greater difficulty finding partners. Their priorities change, and they may not consider romantic companionship as essential for a sense of security and well-being. Therefore many senior women may feel no need to date. Loyalty to deceased partners or to other family members, issues about the appropriateness of dating, and satisfaction with independence may all contribute to the decision not to date.
Care and companionship may be more essential for dating older men. Dating older women may be how they explore trying to experience the pleasure of a serious relationship in their retirement after years of a career-first mentality. Senior men may not be used to the day-to-day responsibilities involved in caring for themselves and want to date in order to seek a companion's help. They may fear not having a physical relationship when dating an older woman, yet worry about a long-term commitment that a physical relationship implies.
Older women who are dating older men have seen their hair turn gray, skin develop wrinkles, legs develop varicose veins, and bodies lose former shape. Dating older men who have also lost physical perfection may ease fears of their appearance. But while physical problems may hinder a physical relationship, many single males find companionship more important than physical needs. The couple will find new acquaintances and friends who tend to accept them as a married couple instead of simply dating singles.
"Great men are not always wise: neither do the aged understand judgment" (Job 32:9). Seniors who want to date should always seek God's guidance as they choose the right companion. It is especially important that they be cautious about the intentions of those they date, especially if the single is considerably younger. Unfortunately, there are people out there who prey on lonely seniors in order to gain access to their money. Seniors need to ask for God's wisdom so they can avoid disaster and find true love.