Free Christian Internet dating services abound on the World Wide Web, ready to help someone find that special person that would want to have in their life. A person can spend all day and night perusing the many websites and their profiles and pictures of the various persons who are also looking for a match. Thousands of persons are available and there are many possibilities awaiting someone who wants to trust God to lead them to the right person. Free Christian Internet dating services might be considered a crutch or even "non spiritual" by some people who believe that if a person is supposed to date or to seek a marriage partner that God will do the leading to the right person. That way of thinking can lead to believing that cars could also be considered an unspiritual conveyance and that whatever traveling or moving about needs to be left to the feet, the natural God-given conveyance. God has unlimited power and can certainly open and close doors quickly when a person is walking into a situation that is not part of His will. The key to using a dating service for Christians is to be spiritually sensitive to His leading and willing to obey His closed and open doors.
Getting ready to date or seek a mate for the first time or after a divorce is different for the Christian. This is because the biblical admonition for any relationship that is close, such as a business, dating or marital relationship is "Be not unequally yoked," an old fashioned term that means don't be in a relationship with someone who doesn't have the same lord as yours. Lords come in a lot of shapes, sizes, colors, prices and fabrics. Lords can be money, pleasure, cars, church, houses, business, music, profits, shopping, education, lust, egos and any other object one can experience. They all can be quite easily worshipped and when one person in a close relationship places Christ as Lord and the other person worships a different lord, the dating and perhaps the ensuing marriage cannot have the God honoring effect that is supposed to take place. Christians understand that dating and marriage should be a witness to the world of how relationships should be conducted and experienced. Free Christian Internet dating websites might be a way to find someone with that same mindset.
"Might be a way" to find someone with the same mindset is important to say because not all free Christian Internet dating websites are the same. Sadly, many people can make the mistake that everyone on a Christian website are Christians. In fact, many websites that are supposed to be Christian are operated by companies that have other websites that definitely are not Christian in commitment or philosophy. This lack of commitment by some free Christian Internet dating websites to the Lordship of Christ leads to not thoroughly screening or vetting those wishing to post pictures and profiles on the site. The result can be a number of persons who may claim something that is not fully lived out. Listen, pretenders can get on any site, make no mistake about it, but sites that do not ask for a written witness of a daily walk with God are not legitimate sites. When reading about someone's "new creature" (II Corinthians 5:17) experience, allow God to tell you whether or not this person is the real deal or not.
Many people who use free Christian internet dating websites are not yet ready to date. When reading through a number of personal profiles on the various sites, one is struck with the thought that many people are carrying a lot of personal baggage that ought to be dealt with before looking for someone to help carry it for them. Sometimes desperation comes through, and sometimes lack of discipline or the unwillingness to change comes through the profile like a headlight at midnight. These attitudes and emotions come out clearly on a free Christian Internet dating service website and so the responsibility of the person using one of these sites to look for the right person is to be sure back issues are clearly dealt with either through counseling or through spiritual healing. Don't be afraid to ask trusted friends, a pastor, or some other neutral party to help you decide whether or not the baggage has been jettisoned. First time dater, widowed or divorced, it makes no difference; get the junk cleared out before asking someone else to come and sit on a cluttered chair for a chit-chat.
The wisest people on the planet are those Christians who are looking for a soul mate with the same commitment to Jesus Christ that they possess. While one out of two marriages end in divorce in this country, the divorce rate when two persons share the lordship of Christ can be in the one of hundreds category. Even Christians are not immune from divorce, but the grounding that faith in Christ brings makes a night and day difference. When looking for someone to date or perhaps be matched with through the use of a free Christian Internet dating service, don't be fooled with church attendance or Bible knowledge. Neither one has much to do with a personal and intimate relationship with Jesus Christ, although those things can be a result of such a relationship. Remember that Jesus declared some who went to church like clockwork and who knew the scriptures backwards and forwards spiritually bankrupt. "Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For ye are like unto white sepulchers which indeed appear beautiful outward, but are within full of dead men's bones and of all uncleanness." (Matthew 23:27)
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