Anger Management Counseling

Turning to anger management counseling can be a very wise step for anyone who needs to attain or sharpen the skills that are needed to handle emotions and build healthy relationships. Everyone gets angry from time to time. But when crossness and irritability move over the line and become an out of control emotion, professional help may be called for. An individual's entire life can be negatively impacted by problems in this area. Whether an angry reaction is triggered by an outside incident or is the result of relationship issues, correctly handling this potent emotion is very important. When channeled correctly, feelings of anger can actually be very useful. The need to defend in the event of an attack can be aided by natural anger. If an individual needs to make an impassioned plea for an important cause, a few angry emotions can be very useful, provided that these emotions are kept under reasonable control.

But for those who are having a hard time keeping this extremely powerful feeling under control, anger management counseling may be necessary. Poorly handled rage can manifest itself in a variety of ways. Perhaps the most easily recognized manifestations can be seen in the person who is considered hotheaded, or is often described as having a short fuse. Anyone who must come in regular contact with these individuals knows, or will soon know that these anger management issues exist. More difficult to identify are the hidden aggressors who take great pains to keep their emotions under wrap. However, angry feelings have a way of getting out if they are not dealt with in a healthy way. These individuals will usually carry around bad moods and may be prone to episodes of sulking, pouting or may suddenly and uncharacteristically blow up, to the surprise of everyone around them. These outburst will frequently seem out of proportion to the events that appeared to trigger them.

Why do people behave in this manner and can anger management counseling be effective in all cases? Some who exhibit excessive anger may be naturally prone to do so. If these tendencies are a part of the individual's personality, counseling can be helpful in learning to handle these traits. Some problems may be related to upbringing. If a child has been trained to suppress negative emotions, and angry feelings were identified by parents as negative, this may have inadvertently taught the child to suppress these normal emotions in an unhealthy way. Many professionals who deal with these issues will take the time to look into a patient's family background. The family is the first training ground for learning to deal with emotions and relate to other people. By identifying any problems that may have occurred within the family, anger management counseling can have a greater chance of success. For example, if an individual has grown up in a family that believed that it was best to express all emotions without regard for their impact on others, this person may experience difficulty in getting along later in life.

A number of organizations offer anger management counseling and classes for corporations. Frequently, companies desire to set up anger management training classes for employees. This may be precipitated by a specific incident in the workplace or may be strictly a preventative step in ensure that no unfortunate incidents occur. These courses may cover such important topics as relationship building or conflict resolution. Developing sharpened communication skills among fellow workers is important as well and will generally be covered during these workplace events. The form that this anger management counseling will take can vary. Private, one on one meetings may be required in some cases and most services that offer these classes can provide this Coaching sessions, workshops and one time presentations can also be very effective. The topic of anger is addressed frequently in the Bible. "He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly: and a man of wicked devices is hated." (Proverbs 14:17)

The need for anger management counseling can also be tied to a number of health problems. Those who are perpetually angry will often be dealing with stress in a very ineffective way. As that stress continues to bubble up and boil over, serious health implications can result. Heart disease, high blood pressure, and various stresses on the body can damage the individual's quality of life. The negative impacts that emotional outbursts can have on the personal and professional lives of those who cannot manage their anger can also be very damaging. But there are answers available for those who are willing to reach out for help and make necessary changes.

There are a number of strategies that may be suggested during anger management counseling. Relaxation can be helpful for those who struggle to remain calm when under stress. Professionals can advise patients on a number of relaxation techniques that may be helpful in dealing with the temptations to burst out with angry feelings. Some of these techniques may include deep breathing exercises. Some professionals may recommend developing mental reminders to calm down or take it easy while breathing deeply. This technique will basically give the individual the opportunity to stop and count to ten before responding. Such a pause will hopefully prevent an inappropriate outburst. Breaking old habits and changing the way that the patient thinks and approaches certain situations can be important elements of counseling as well. With the help of trained professionals it is possible to gain control over this very powerful emotion.

Anger Stress Management

Anger stress management is recommended for those persons that have discovered that there coping mechanisms have brought pain and distress on loved ones as well as co-workers and perhaps even strangers. The inability to deal proactively with certain stress or anger producing situations cuts across all racial and economic divides as well as the spectrum of age. Road rage, heightened rudeness in public settings, loud and vulgar arguing, spousal and child abuse, door slamming and fists through doors and walls are all part of the reason anger stress management courses are offered through community agencies. Of course there is the other side of displayed ire, and that is displaced ire turned inward. Sullen, solitary, anti-social behavior that suddenly explodes into sometimes violent anger is the other side of the coin.

At the heart of most uncontrolled anger is denial and as many have said so many times before, that ain't a river. The majority of those who have rage issues or misplaced ire that often is displayed in some aggressive manner will deny that they even have a problem. Sadly, often only after some court order, due to a traumatic experience, will someone be forced into therapy or the anger stress management classroom. For others, the motivation may come from the intervention of a friend or a spouse who finally helps someone see just how dysfunctional he or she actually has become. But once the person has gotten into the actual course, and they vary from agency to agency, what is actually said and done to help people with their ire issues?

The place to really start this whole discussion might be to try and nail down exactly what ire is. One definition says it is an emotional state that may range from mild irritation to intense rage. Another definition says resentment or ire is a strong passion of displeasure at a real or supposed injury or insult. Perhaps the most thought provoking definition of anger was unfulfilled expectations. Antagonism or rage isn't always a bad thing, in fact the emotion can spur people who channel it correctly into accomplishing some pretty cool things for society, and there is what the Bible refers to as righteous indignation demonstrated when Jesus became infuriated on several occasions with self righteous clergy and with profiteers in the temple. But in too many cases, anger is just spewing venom or striking out indiscriminately at innocent or perhaps well meaning person and then the emotion becomes a problem for more than the person doing the venting and anger stress management is appropriate.

Psychotherapy with its reliance on cognitive-behavioral counseling has been the mainstay of anger stress management programs across the country for many decades. It is a method of counseling that is based on the idea that thoughts cause one's feelings and behaviors to be created. In other words, anger comes from what we are thinking rather than being caused by what other people do, or circumstances that happen to us. Psychotherapy depends on the give and take of the counselor and client as the therapist attempts to help reveal the client's flawed thinking that brings about destructive behavior. It is in a very large sense a therapy that asks the person to take responsibility for his or her actions rather than blaming outside forces for behavior. In the same way, god asks each human to take responsibility for his sin and seek a solution for that sin. "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth on Him should not perish but have everlasting life." (John 3:16)

Anger stress management can take a one on one form with a psychotherapist, or that therapist may lead a group of people seeking help with resentment issues. The setting of a group can provide powerful feedback and the ability to see oneself in the lives of others. This is why the group therapy approach is often one of the most widely used approaches by counselors who are responsible for helping individuals who need anger stress management. Some people do not respond well in a group setting where sharing one's weaknesses is a required activity. For others, the group setting is much more productive than going one on one with a personal therapist. In many ways, the group setting can set a much more confrontational approach, with peers calling members to a high rate of accountability.

In some cases, because of destructive behavior, a court will order a person to take anger stress management classes. This is typically in a classroom setting with lectures by various speakers or just one teacher and a limited opportunity for group interaction. There may be a workbook that serves as the "textbook" for the course, often with fill in the blank sentences so that the participant must listen carefully to what is being said. Successful completion of a class is often the requirement of the court in order for the offender to receive a lighter or suspended sentence for something that occurred because of uncontrolled anger. The success of any therapy or a class that is meant to change years of thinking or ingrained behavior is contingent on the motivation of the participant. Self-awareness must be a part of a participant's energy when going into such a program because others cannot make the changes for the one who has dysfunctional behavior. A desire to want to change motivated by a love for the people that have been hurt by the misplaced anger has to be the key ingredient in such a program.





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